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It felt almost like a movie. It’s been a long time since something really sparked my curiosity but here we are. I had just finished watching a YouTube video titled “18-Year-Old Cashing $3,372 Stolen Check, Cries After She's Caught.” You know what caught my attention? When the police officer started reading her rights aloud.

That’s when I heard the phrase again: “Miranda Rights.” I’ve noticed this happens in many videos where police arrest a suspect there’s always that formal moment where they read something out loud. And this time, I decided to dig deeper.Aha! So it’s called Miranda Rights. This is exactly the thing I’ve always wanted to understand better.


So, what exactly are Miranda Rights?
The Miranda Rights are a set of legal protections that police officers in the United States must read to a person who is in custody and about to be interrogated. These rights are there to protect a suspect’s Fifth Amendment right the right not to say anything that might get them in trouble.

The term “Miranda” might sound like a fancy legal word, but actually, it comes from a real person: a man named Ernesto Miranda.

Back in 1963, Ernesto Miranda was arrested in Arizona for kidnapping and assault. The police questioned him and got a confession but there was a catch.He wasn’t told that he had the right to remain silent or that he could ask for a lawyer.

His case, Miranda v. Arizona, went all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court. In 1966, the court ruled that suspects must be told their rights before being questioned. That ruling led to what we now call the Miranda Warning.

The image from Watchdog Body Cam

The following is a full Miranda Warning say
“You have the right to remain silent.

Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law.

You have the right to an attorney.

If you cannot afford an attorney, one will be provided for you.

Do you understand the rights I have just read to you?

With these rights in mind, do you wish to speak to me?”


Pretty powerful stuff, right? Why is this so important?Without being warned, a suspect might say something just out of fear or confusion and that can lead to unfair outcomes. The Miranda Rights are there to make sure people know their choices, especially in stressful situations.

So next time you hear those iconic lines on a TV show or in real news footage, you’ll know they’re not just words they’re the result of a historic legal case that changed how justice works in America.


No “Miranda Rights” in Indonesia?
The U.S. and Indonesia actually use two different legal systems. America follows what’s called a common law system, where court decisions (like the famous Miranda v. Arizona case) shape the law. Indonesia, on the other hand, uses a civil law system, which relies more on written laws and codes especially the KUHAP (Criminal Procedure Code)

That means here in Indonesia, there’s no law that says police must verbally read out your rights like they do in the U.S. But Don’t Suspects in Indonesia Have Rights Too?Yes, they do! According to KUHAP, when someone is arrested, they must be told: Why they’re being arrested, That they have the right to contact their family or a lawyer

However, there’s no requirement to read these rights out loud in a scripted way, like in American movies. Often, the rights are just included

What do you think about the Miranda Rights?

Should Indonesia have something similar?

Share your thoughts in the comments below 

I’d love to hear your opinions! 

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Tag : Keseharian, Travelling - Asep Haryono | Online Cabs Like Uber Are Not Allowed To Operate at Supadio Airport - Powered by Blogger

When I was dropping off my beloved wife at Supadi Airport, I noticed a sign prohibiting online taxis from picking up passengers in the airport area. On my way back to the parking lot where I had left my motorcycle, this caught my attention. I had previously read news from several online and print media outlets in Indonesia about incidents involving assaults by conventional taxi drivers on online taxi drivers in several major cities.

I deeply regret such acts of vigilantism.

Regardless of the reason, assault is a form of taking the law into one’s own hands, and it is punishable under the law. There should be no place for such behavior in a democracy like Indonesia. We already have established rules and laws to handle disputes. I am not a legal expert just a concerned citizen and a citizen journalist so allow me to share my opinion here.

Let us briefly revisit the legal framework surrounding internet-based transportation services like online taxis. Government Regulation No. 26 of 2017 issued by the Ministry of Transportation of The Republic of Indonesia clearly defines the upper and lower fare limits for online taxis. Services like GoCar, Grab, and Uber use an application-based system to operate.

There is a distinction between operational permits and transportation organizer permits. Online taxi services (Maybe like UBER in the US - redacted) are suspected of not fully completing their administrative requirements, particularly the Transportation Organizer Permit, which differs from the operational permit many currently hold

I took this photo with my mobile phone. The banner is in Bahasa Indonesia.
They said "Online cabs are prohibited to pick any passenger at the area of Supadio Airport"

Are Online Taxis Illegal?
As discussed above, providers of these online transport services should immediately process the appropriate Transportation Operation Permits, in accordance with Indonesia’s legal framework.

If these permits are not yet obtained, then the "illegal" label may be justified from an administrative standpoint. Indonesia is a country governed by the rule of law, and everyone is expected to follow regulations accordingly. Every person has the right to earn a halal (lawful) income, but that right must be exercised within the boundaries of the law.

The baggage claim section at Supadio Airport . 
Photo taken from DETIK COM

The look of Supadio Airport which has been planned to become an International airport shortly.  Photo taken from Kalbar Sepekan

To me, this seems to be a matter of administrative misunderstanding one that can be resolved through transparency and open dialogue.

On the other hand, let’s put an end to envy. Conventional taxis have their own segment of loyal customers, while online taxis have become popular among younger, tech-savvy generations who value convenience and affordability. Today, almost everything from ordering food to booking a ride can be done through a smartphone.

Let us uphold existing regulations, implement them fairly, and ensure compliance. God willing (Insya Allah), with cooperation and mutual understanding, there will be no more clashes or conflicts between conventional and online taxi providers.

At the end of the day, consumers are king. Everything should be viewed from the user’s perspective, with service and satisfaction as top priorities. Anyone running a business or an independent operation must respect and follow the law.

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Tag : Indonesia, Keseharian - Asep Haryono | Pacu Jalur, One of Stunning Indonesian cultures goes viral abroad - Powered by Blogger

Pacu Jalur, the Kuantan Singingi Tradition from Indonesia that Went Viral and InternationalSocial media has recently been buzzing with viral Pacu Jalur videos, where a small child is seen dancing at the tip of a long boat racing quickly down the river, accompanied by dozens of rowers paddling in unison.

The agile performance of the dancing child captivated netizens and has been described as having "farming aura," a popular term among Gen Z to describe an appealing and charming appearance. The image of a child joyfully dancing at the front of a fast-moving boat has recently gone viral on social media. His charismatic movements have been parodied by netizens from all over the world. That child is Rayyan Arkan Dikha.

The Pacu Jalur tradition, a long boat rowing competition typical of Kuantan Singingi, Riau, suddenly became the focus of the world. The reason is the energetic movements of a child dancer at the end of the boat known as "Anak Coki," who went viral on TikTok and global social media. 

This image taken from AF MEDIA Youtube

In that now-iconic moment, Rayyan stood confidently at the tip of a speeding boat barefoot, in traditional dark blue attire, wearing cool black shades, and completely unfazed by the wild paddling behind him. With steady hands, subtle movements, and calm presence, he became an instant legend.

This wasn’t a movie scene this was real life, and it happened during a centuries-old tradition called Pacu Jalur. Let me paint the picture for you. Literally.


Pacu Jalur Goes Viral?
Pacu Jalur is more than just a race. It’s a deep-rooted cultural tradition in Kuantan Singingi, Riau, where long boats  some stretching over 20 meters are crewed by dozens of synchronized rowers. But the real star is the child performer standing right at the front, called the Togak Luan, whose job is to inspire the team and delight the crowd.

Rayyan, just 11 years old, had done this before it wasn’t his first performance. But this time, something magical happened. A video of his calm, graceful dance while the boat sped down the river was posted online and the internet lost its mind.

Pacu Jalur,  One of Stunning Indonesian cultures goes viral abroad

Within days, the clip exploded. Viewers around the world called it “aura farming” slang for radiating natural charisma and coolness. Rayyan’s poised moves, set against the chaotic paddling behind him, turned him into a global meme, a TikTok trend, and even a cultural icon.

People everywhere from anime fans to athletes began recreating the scene. Even football giants like Paris Saint-Germain (PSG) and AC Milan jumped on the trend with parody videos. Formula 1 drivers, influencers, and celebrities joined the fun. Suddenly, the whole world was dancing on imaginary boats.


A Symbol of Culture
Back home in Indonesia, people were amazed and proud. Ryan wasn’t just a cute viral kid he became a symbol of cultural pride. The provincial government of Riau even named him a cultural ambassador, using his popularity to help promote local heritage on a global stage.

And he’s still the same kid. Rayyan goes to school, helps his family, and still practices traditional dances. He had no idea the world would be watching he was simply doing what he loves.

What makes this story so beautiful is how a quiet moment on a river sparked a global conversation about tradition, culture, and youth confidence. Rayyan didn’t need a microphone or a stage. He just needed a boat, a traditional outfit, and the courage to stand tall literally.

So next time you’re scrolling and see a dancing kid in sunglasses on a boat, remember: you’re looking at Rayyan Arkan Dikha from Riau, Indonesia the boy who turned Pacu Jalur into a worldwide trend. That is cool, Huh

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Tag : Keseharian, Opinion - Asep Haryono | The Online Dilemma for Individuals and Businesses - Powered by Blogger

I have looked at several official websites, both business and personal, where people intentionally display their real personal information online to be viewed by people around the world especially for business purposes. They clearly include their real contact details (address, phone number, email address) so that potential customers can contact them for more information about their products.

On the other hand, I’ve found that many individuals online are not interested in providing their personal contact details. Instead, they prefer to use general chat options such as Facebook Messenger or the Facebook comment section, which feel safer than exposing their private information. This is understandable.

FYI. This is my actual laptop I use every day at my home. I purchased online a few years ago. Old fashion type with very old window version as well.

Privacy vs. Visibility:
In today’s digital world, there's an interesting contrast happening across social media and online platforms. On one side, many individuals especially bloggers and everyday internet users are becoming increasingly cautious about sharing personal information. On the other side, online businesses are expected to be transparent, providing real addresses, phone numbers, and contact details to build trust. So why is this happening, and what risks are involved?

Many social media users are now choosing to keep their phone numbers, real names, and even profile pictures private. And it’s easy to understand why. With rising concerns about cyberbullying, scams, identity theft, and doxxing, protecting your personal data online is no longer optional it’s essential.

Online anonymity also offers freedom. People want to express themselves, join conversations, or comment freely without fear of judgment or harassment. That’s why you often see pseudonyms and avatars instead of real faces on platforms like Reddit, TikTok, or Twitter.

"It doesn't happen to me. If you visit my blog, you’ll clearly see that all my contact details are publicly displayed. My email, phone number, and other personal information are real.

I'm not afraid of being scammed or having someone misuse my contact details or photos for their own benefit. All my friends already know me well. Even though I haven’t experienced any serious online scams in years,

I will definitely stay more cautious with all my online activities moving forward"




For Businesses Must Be Transparent
In contrast, online businesses operate in a completely different environment. They need to be visible and accessible. Potential customers want to know they’re dealing with a real, trustworthy business. That means showing an actual address, business phone number, and clear identity. Without that, people simply won’t buy.

Also, for legal reasons, platforms like Google Business, Facebook Pages, or marketplaces like Amazon often require verified business details. This builds credibility, ensures accountability, and helps with online visibility in search engines.

Scammers Are Watching

Here’s the twist. While businesses need to be transparent, that same visibility also makes them prime targets for scammers. Public contact details are often scraped from websites or social media and used for: Fake orders or refund scams, Phishing emails pretending to be customers or banks, Business identity theft (cloning websites or brand pages), Phone calls using social engineering to steal information, The more open you are, the more exposed you become,

How to Be Smart and Stay Safe
Balancing online visibility with security starts by being mindful of what you share. It’s a good idea to use only essential information like a business phone, a professional email address, and a general location such as your city while keeping personal details private. Strengthening your digital presence is also important. Make sure your website uses HTTPS, update your plugins regularly, and install basic security tools such as firewalls to prevent unwanted access.

It helps to separate personal and business accounts so your professional activity doesn't overlap with your private life. For instance, using different platforms or profiles for your business keeps things organized and more secure. When you receive unexpected emails, messages, or payment notifications, take a moment to double-check their source. Verifying things before responding can prevent unnecessary risks or misunderstandings.

Also, keep an eye on how your brand appears online. Every so often, search your business name to make sure it hasn’t been copied or misused. If something looks suspicious, acting early can protect your reputation and customer trust. Taking these thoughtful steps helps you stay visible, credible, and safe in the digital world.

The online world is full of opportunity, but also full of risk. For individuals, privacy is protection. For businesses, visibility is survival. The key is to find the sweet spot where you're open enough to grow, but cautious enough to stay safe.

If you found this article helpful, feel free to share it with fellow bloggers, small business owners, or anyone trying to grow their online presence safely. Have your own tips or stories to share? Drop a comment below or message me I’d love to hear your thoughts!

I think that will be all for now my friend

Just be cool

Stay smart, stay safe, and keep creating
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Tag : Internet, Keseharian - Asep Haryono | Floating City in the Clouds: Fake or Fata Morgana? - Powered by Blogger

Have you ever scrolled through your phone and come across a strange video showing a city floating in the clouds? Like... literally a whole city in the sky? Well, that exact thing happened in China back in 2015, and it freaked a lot of people out!

In a place called Foshan, Guangdong Province, people looked up and saw what looked like tall buildings hovering above the clouds. It was like a scene from a sci-fi movie. A few days later, folks in Jiangxi Province also reported seeing something similar. Videos went viral fast with comments ranging from “What the heck is this?!” to “Aliens are coming!”

Some people said it looked like a ghost city floating in the sky. Others called it a real-life version of Studio Ghibli’s “Castle in the Sky.” No matter how you look at it, the scene was seriously wild.

Floating city in the clouds: Fake or fata morgana?
Photo taken from CNN Youtube Channel

Real or Just a Fancy Illusion?

So… what was it really?.Some say it was a hoax a clever video edit meant to stir up social media hype. Others believe it was a rare natural phenomenon called Fata Morgana. Sounds like a cool name for a magic trick, right?

Wait, What’s Fata Morgana?

Let me explain it the simple way. Fata Morgana is basically a mirage like when you're driving on a hot road and it looks like there’s water ahead, but it’s not really there. In this case, the sky acts like a mirror and bends light in weird ways. So a real city

Illustration taken from Top Fives Youtube Channel

far away can appear in the sky, stretched or floating like magic.

Some experts say that’s what happened in Foshan. The atmosphere played a trick on everyone, making buildings from a nearby area appear in the sky. Trippy, huh?

But Still… It Looked Too Real

Honestly, when I watched the video, it didn’t feel like a blurry mirage. The buildings looked sharp and solid like you could touch them. That’s probably why so many people still believe it was something else. A government hologram test? A glitch in the matrix? Something spiritual?

Who knows!

My Opinions
Whether it was a rare trick of the light or something more mysterious, the “floating city” in China is one of those stories that makes you stop and wonder: how much of what we see can we really trust?

It might not have been an alien city or a sign from the sky but it sure made a lot of us look up. Have you ever seen anything like this before? Or would you believe it if you did? 

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Tag : Keseharian, Opinion - Asep Haryono | Bagaimana Supaya Kamu Tidak Menjadi Korban Scammer - Powered by Blogger

Mencari teman hidup atau jodoh sudah lazim saat ini di seluruh penjuru dunia. Ini sudah bukan menjadi rahasia umum lagi. Sudah hal yang lazim di jaman serba online sekarang ini, orang mencari informasi apa saja sudah tersedia dengan mudah. Hanya dengan mengetikkan keyword (kata kunci) maka informasi yang kita ingin sudah terhampar di depan mata. Apa pun yang anda inginkan , informasi dengan derasnya begitu mudah didapatkan.

Bagaimana Supaya Kamu Tidak Menjadi Korban Scammer

Namun demikian bahaya akan selalu datang mengintai di sekitar kita. Salah satunya adalah banyaknya Scammer (penipu) di dunia maya. Ada banyak sekali jenis dan tipe para penipu inil. Dan kamu harus waspada terhaoap trik licik mereka yang selalu punya cara baru untuk menjerat anda masuk menjadi korban penipuan mereka. Apa itu di Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Youtube, WhatsApp, hingga website. Yang namanya penipu ada di sekitar kita yang siap mengintai kapan saja

Romance Scammer (Penipu Asmara)
Apa itu Romance Scammer atau Penipus Asmara? Sahabat bisa mencari sendiri informasinya di Google. Yang ingin saya bagikan di sini adalah resiko atau bahaya bahaya yang bisa anda temui jika bersosialisasi di sosial Media seperti di Facebook, Telegram, WhatsApp, atau website. Saya coba bahas sedikit untuk Jenis penipuan yang satu ini.

Bagi mereka yang kebetulan “jomblo bahagia” mungkin tidak ada masalah, namun bagaimana mereka yang sudah kebelet kepengen cari lawan jenis untuk dijadikan teman hidup, teman kencan, atau apa lah (Saya sendiri tidak menganjurkan –red), ini adalah urusan pribadi kamu. I have nothing to do with that issue. Saya hanya coba membagi bahaya bahaya apa saja yang mungkin kamu dapatkan jika mendapati penipu jenis ini, Romance Scammer

Saya mau bertanya. Apa kamu sering mengunjungi Tinder, atau applikasi pencari teman , atau mengunjungi dating service atau situs kencan? Atau mencari pasangan di saluran Telegram, IG atau apa saja? Saya hanya bertanya saja. No offended please (mohon tidak tersinggung ya brader). Nah scammer sudah bercokol di sana. Mereka.

Mereka pada umumnya, dan seringnya menggunakan foto profil orang lain (Bukan fotonya sendiri), dan sudah pasti tanpa izin. Nah para penipu ini berpura pura menjadi seorang gadis, dengan tubuh aduhai (maaf), semuanya hanya untuk menarik kamu masuk dalam jebakan “asmara” nya. Tujuannya bisa bermacam macam. Scammer mengintai kantong atau uang kamu, atau kamu menjadi korban scamming mereka. Ini yang harus diwaspadai. Akan saya bahas di judul yang laind ari artikel saya hari ini

Pertanyaannya adalah “Bagaimana supaya Kamu tidak terjebak menjadi Korban para Scammer di Internet”? Yuk saya coba bahas singkat saja dalam artikel ini. Beberapa materi saya petik dari sumber sumber lain

Waspada Tipu Daya Para Scammer
Seperti yang sudah saya sebut di atas, mencari teman baru dari platform media sosial sangat umum saat ini baik untuk pengembangan pribadi atau karir seperti mendapatkan kesempatan baru untuk bekerja di luar negeri dan banyak lagi tujuan lainnya. . Namun suatu ketika, dengan maksut dan alasan tertentu, orang bisa jatuh ke dalam masalah pribadi seperti mencari teman hidup, pasangan hidup di sosial media atau melalui situs situs pencarian teman.

Menemukan pasangan seumur hidup baru bisa menjadi masalah yang sangat serius bagi mereka yang tidak tahu aturan dasar tentang cara berhubungan dengan orang yang baru dikenal di sosial media/ Apa pun alasannya, jangan mudah terjebak atau percaya begitu saja kepada orang yang baru kamu kenal di Internet. Ini saja dahulu kunci utama keselamatan anda. Nah ada beberapa TRIK para Scammer (Penipu) yang bisa kamu pelajari, waspadai, dan hindari jika menemukan gejala gejala mereka akan melakukan ini 

Tawaran Pekerjaan Mudah Gaji Besar 
Nah ini adalah salah satu Trik para Scammer untuk mejebak kamu masuk menjadi korban mereka. Sebenarnya bisa panjang kamau membahas ini, dan tidak akan cukup 1 hari. Namun saya coba rangkum saja ya.
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Nah untuk jenis Penipuan ini, Jika kamu misalnya saat ini sedang mencari pekerjaan, lalu kamu bertemu seseorang yang baru anda kenal di sosial media (Linkedin, WhatsAppa, Telegram atau apa saja sosial media-red) lalu menawarkan kepada kamiu Pekerjaan Mudah dengan Gaji Besar di dalam atau di luar Negeri, tanpa pengalaman kerja, , tanpa dokumen, nah waspadalah. Kamu sedang dipancing masuk dalam jebakan perdagangan manusia.

Sebagai contoh aja ya. Sebagai ilustrasi. Kamu mendapatkan tawaran pekerjaan sebagai penjaga Toko. Misalnya ya. Di Inggris Kamu hanya diminta menyediakan Passport, Koper (Pakaian kamu) saja Semua sudah beres ditanggung oleh Agen Pencari Kerja yang anda kenal itu. Baik Tiket Pesawat Pergi Pulang, Akomodasi, Penhginapan, dan Gaji Besar. Semua dokumen mereka yang urus. Dan ini serius banyak terjadi sekarang. Mereka lah korban perdagangan manusia atau bahasa kerennya adalah Human Trafficking

Begitu anda tiba di Bandara Inggris, anda akan dijemput oleh Agen Pencari kerja, dan Handphone dan Passpor anda akan disita oleh mereka. Kamu akan dibawa ke mobil untuk di bawa ke sebuah tempat atau Gedung dan anda akan ditahan di sana. Anda akan disuruh kerja 24 jam tanpa Gaji.

Passpor dan HP kamu kan sudah ada pada mereka. Nah para Agen Pencari Kerja inilah yang akan menghubungi Keluarga anda di Indonesia, bahwa anda sudah menjadi tahanan mereka, dan akan dilepaskan jika membayar tebusan ratusan juta rupiah. Jika tidak, maka anak mereka akan menjadi budak mereka se umur hidup.

Yang lebih mengerikan lagi jika para korban Trafficking ini di "jual" lagi kepada agen lainya, dan bahkan ada laporan yang menyebutkan mereka diambil organ. Berangkat mencari peruntungan di luar negeri, dengan penuh harapan akan kehidupan yang lebih baik ternyata jadi korban penipuan dan pulang sudah dalam keadaan tidak bernyawa. 

Nah ini saja contoh sederhana apa yang terjadi jika kamu menjadi korban Perdagangan Manusia dengan iming iming pekerjaan. Mengerikan tentunya bukan

Termasuk lkamu sebaiknya tidak memberikan informasi penting rahasia kepada orang yang baru kamu kenal di sosial media seperti nomor rekening Bank, atau diminta mengirim foto foto syur kamu kepada orang yang kamu kenal baru di Internet. Ingat Scammer bisa menjadi apa saja, mau jadi cewek bohay sekalipun bisa mereka. Nah jika kamu melewatri batas seperti mengirim intimate picture, bisa jadi kamu akan menjadi korban Blackmail (pemerasan) yang menuntut tebusan.

Sebenarnya masih banyak lagi TRIK TRIK dari para scammer yang akan menakutkan kalau saya bahas semuanya di sini. Mungkin dilain kesempatan Insya Allah akan saya sampaikan dalam tema tema yang lain. Kejahatan dunia maya memang nyata dan selalu mengintai kelemahan kita. Para scammer ini cerdik dan selalu memiliki cara baru untuk memancing kamu masuk ke dalam perangkap kejahatan mereka. Keterbatasan waktu jugalah, bahkan kamu juga pastinya akan bosan jika artike lini terlalu panjang. 

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Tag : curahanhati, Keseharian - Asep Haryono | Why Do Westerners Kiss So Much? A Cultural Perspective from My Eyes - Powered by Blogger

I’ve watched countless Western movies romantic comedies, family dramas, even light-hearted sitcoms and one thing keeps catching my attention: kissing everywhere. Not just between lovers, but sometimes between friends, neighbors, or even family members. And I’m not just talking about a polite kiss on the cheek sometimes it’s a real kiss on the lips! As someone from Indonesia, I couldn't help but wonder, "Is this really how they live in real life?"

I try to find out and dive into this fascinating part of Western culture and see what’s really going on.

Minimal illustration of people kissing in different relationships on a beige background

First, Not All Kisses Mean Romance
In many Western cultures, kissing isn’t always romantic. Shocking, I know. In places like France, Italy, or Spain, greeting someone with a kiss on the cheek is totally normal even between men. It’s kind of like our handshake, but more personal. It says, “Hey, we’re close. We’re comfortable.” You’ll see this mostly between friends or family.

But here’s the twist: in the U.S. or U.K., cheek kissing isn’t as common. People usually greet with hugs, waves, or just “Hey!” Still, in some families, a quick kiss on the lips between a parent and child might happen. It’s not romantic—it’s just their way of expressing love.

Friends and Neighbors? Not So Fast…
Movies can exaggerate things. In real life, Westerners don’t usually kiss their friends or neighbors on the lips. If you see that in a film, it’s likely for drama or comedy. While friends might hug, cheek kiss, or do a “kiss on the air” (where their cheeks touch but lips don’t), lip kissing is rare outside romantic relationships or certain family dynamics.

So no your average American or Brit isn't kissing their neighbor on the lips after borrowing some sugar.

"Just like hugs. Hugs in Western culture can mean many things depending on the context. They’re often used to show support, gratitude, comfort, or friendship. In emotional situations like helping someone in need a hug can express what words can’t. It’s a deep, human connection. 

Not all hugs are romantic; many are just gestures of kindness and empathy. I saw in this video how a pregnant homeless woman hugged her helpers it really touched me. That kind of hug is called a gratitude hug, and it’s very common in the West. It's beautiful how a simple hug can mean so much.

In Indonesia, public displays of affection like hugging and kissing even between husband and wife are generally considered inappropriate, offensive, and disturbing to many. Such acts are usually kept private due to cultural and religious values that prioritize modesty and public decency..

Public Displays of Affection
One thing that’s definitely different from Indonesian culture is how public displays of affection (PDA) are viewed. In Western countries, it’s quite normal to see couples holding hands, hugging, or even kissing in public. Most people won’t stare or make a big deal out of it. But in more conservative or traditional societies (like ours), public affection might be seen as disrespectful or inappropriate.

A Cultural Reminder.What’s “normal” in one culture can be “shocking” in another. In Indonesia, physical touch is often reserved for close family or romantic partners—and even then, it’s mostly private. Meanwhile, in the West, showing affection physically is often a sign of openness, honesty, or comfort, not necessarily intimacy.

Kissing on the cheek or lips doesn't always carry the same meaning everywhere.

As someone who grew up in a culture where even holding hands can be controversial, watching these cultural differences play out on screen has been eye-opening. At first, I was confused. Then a bit shocked. But now I understand it’s not about being “too open” or “too loose.” It’s just a different way of expressing love and connection.

Culture shapes how we act, love, and even kiss.
Understanding those differences helps us see the world with more respect and less judgment.

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A Message From Asep Haryono

 

"Thank you so much for your time here. I really appreciate your precious moment here as well.  Please leave any comment down below.  Let me hear from you.  Greetings from Indonesia"

Tag : Keseharian, Travelling - Asep Haryono | Things Foreign Tourists Always Ask About Indonesia - Powered by Blogger

As someone living in Indonesia and often chatting with people from around the world, I’ve noticed something fun: foreign tourists are really curious about my country. Whether they’re messaging me online or coming here for the first time, they often ask similar questions. Some of them are funny, others are thoughtful, and many show just how little the world really knows about Indonesia. So I thought why not write about it?

One of the most common things people say is, “So… Bali is Indonesia, right?” That one always makes me smile. Bali is indeed part of Indonesia, but it’s just one of over 17,000 islands! It’s kind of like saying Paris is the same as Europe. Bali is stunning, no doubt, but there are so many other beautiful places in Indonesia like Yogyakarta, Lombok, Labuan Bajo, and Raja Ampat. There’s a whole world to discover here beyond just Bali’s beaches and cafes.

Another question I get a lot is about language. “Do people speak English in Indonesia?” Well, the answer is yes sometimes. In touristy areas, sure, many locals speak basic English, especially those working in hospitality. But in more rural or everyday places, it’s mostly Bahasa Indonesia. Some even speak their own regional languages, like Javanese or Sundanese. Still, tourists who learn just a few local words like “terima kasih” (thank you) usually earn a big smile from locals.

Religion also comes up a lot. “Is Indonesia a Muslim country?” people ask. It’s true that Indonesia has the largest Muslim population in the world, but we’re not a religious state like Saudi Arabia. Indonesia officially recognizes six religions, and we live quite peacefully with each other. You’ll see mosques next to churches, Hindu temples, and even Buddhist monasteries. That’s one thing I really love about our country it’s so diverse.

I used to be a licensed tour guide in West Kalimantan for over 10 years. During that time, I guided many tourists, both in groups and individually. This photo was taken in April 2020  quite a while ago when I was guiding two tourists from different countries: Miss Jen (left) from Manila, the Philippines, and John (middle) from Canada. We took this photo together at Istana Kadriyah in Pontianak

And of course, there's the food question. Everyone wants to know what Indonesian food is like. I always say: spicy, flavorful, and full of surprises! Whether it’s nasi goreng, rendang, sate, or gado-gado, our dishes are packed with taste. But beware of sambal our chili sauce. It may look innocent, but it can light your mouth on fire if you’re not used to it!

When it comes to what to wear, tourists are often unsure. Can they wear shorts or bikinis? In places like Bali or beach resorts, that’s completely fine. But in smaller towns or religious sites, modest clothing is more appropriate. Indonesians are generally very polite, and they appreciate it when visitors respect local customs, even in small ways.

Safety is another big concern. Tourists often ask if Indonesia is safe, and I’d say yes, for the most part. As in any country, there are places where you should be careful, especially in busy city areas. But overall, Indonesians are warm, kind, and happy to help. Just use common sense watch your belongings, avoid political protests, and don’t wander around alone late at night.

People also wonder how we get around in such a big country. Well, we’ve got everything Grab and Gojek (like Uber), buses, ferries, and even low-cost domestic flights. In Jakarta, we have a growing MRT system, though traffic jams are still part of daily life. If you're visiting, just prepare for some delays and stay patient.

What I really wish people knew is that Indonesia is more than palm trees and volcanoes. It’s a living, breathing place full of stories, culture, humor, and heart. If you’re planning to visit, I hope you go beyond the tourist hotspots, talk to locals, and experience something real. And no we don’t ride elephants to school. That one still makes me laugh every time.

So, have you ever been to Indonesia?
Or maybe you’re planning a trip?
I’d love to hear your thoughts or questions.

Let’s chat in the comments!

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A Message From Asep Haryono

 

"Thank you so much for your time here. I really appreciate your precious moment here as well.  Please leave any comment down below.  Let me hear from you.  Greetings from Indonesia"

Tag : Keseharian, Opinion - Asep Haryono | Point Of View : Brunette vs. Blonde: What’s the Difference?: - Powered by Blogger

Indonesians, like most people in Southeast Asian countries, mostly have black hair. As an Indonesian, I’m a bit baffled when it comes to distinguishing between blondes and brunettes among Western people, whether male or female. Here in Indonesia, we often refer to tourists or foreigners as "bule". As I look deeper into this topic, I’m quite stunned by some of the facts I’ve come across

If you've ever been unsure about the difference between a brunette and a blonde, you're not alone. With so many shades and styles out there, not to mention, hair dye it can get confusing fast. And while we’re at it, let’s also talk about how these terms apply to men and why hair coloring is becoming such a big trend in Indonesia.

So, What’s a Brunette?
“Brunette” refers to someone with brown or dark brown hair. The word comes from the French term brun, meaning brown. A brunette can range from light brown to deep espresso or even nearly black. Traditionally, people think of the word “brunette” being used for women but guess what? Men can be brunettes too! It’s just less commonly said. Most people simply say, “He has dark hair.”

And What’s a Blonde?
A “blonde” is someone with light yellowish or golden hair. It can vary from platinum blonde (almost white) to darker, more honey-colored shades. Technically, the spelling “blonde” is used for women, while “blond” is used for men but in casual English, especially American English, most people use “blonde” for both.

So yes, you can definitely call someone a blonde guy or a brunette man, and it’s totally correc

" In Indonesia, the word “bule” is commonly used to refer to foreigners, especially Westerners with light skin or hair. Originally, it described albino animals, but over time it became a casual term for Caucasians.
While often used without offense, some foreigners may find it uncomfortable. It's better to use terms like “orang asing” or “wisatawan” in formal settings to show more respect and cultural sensitivity"

What About Hair Dye?
In today’s world, natural color isn’t everything. Many people dye their hair to try new looks, follow trends, or express themselves. A natural brunette can become a platinum blonde, and vice versa. That’s where things get fun and complicated. And speaking of hair dye, let’s talk about something closer to home…

Hair Dyeing Trends in Indonesia:
Just for Style, or Something More?

In Indonesia, especially among young people, dyeing hair has become a popular form of self-expression. From Jakarta to Bali, it’s not uncommon to see bright highlights, ash-gray tones, caramel balayage, or even full-blown platinum blonde looks.

I think I know who I took a selfie with.
The photo was taken during the Youth Engagement Summit held in Kuala Lumpur in November 2009.
Her name is Audrone Pakalnite from Ukraine

But why do Indonesians dye their hair?
Fashion and Fun Just like choosing an outfit, coloring your hair is a way to try something different and feel stylish. It’s a personal makeover that can instantly boost confidence.
Western & Korean Influence

Social media, Korean dramas, Western movies, and influencers have all played a big role in shaping beauty trends including hair. Lighter hair is often associated with global pop culture icons, and many people want to try that aesthetic.

Creative Expression Not everyone who dyes their hair wants to “look Western.” For many Indonesians, it's just about expressing personality and standing out in a crowd.Challenging Traditional Norms In more conservative areas, hair dyeing especially in bright or blonde shades is still seen as rebellious. But in big cities, it’s widely accepted and even celebrated as a fashion statement.


My Opinions
So, whether someone’s naturally blonde or brunette, male or female, or rocking a totally dyed look is just one part of how people express themselves. The terms “blonde” and “brunette” apply to both men and women, and now, thanks to hair dye, it doesn’t even have to match your natural roots!

In Indonesia, the growing trend of hair coloring isn’t just about copying others it’s about exploring personal identity, having fun, and embracing global fashion in your own unique way.

So next time you see someone with light blonde waves or rich brunette curlsnatural or not remember: it’s all part of the colorful world of self-expression.

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A Message From Asep Haryono

 

"Thank you so much for your time here. I really appreciate your precious moment here as well.  Please leave any comment down below.  Let me hear from you.  Greetings from Indonesia"

Tag : Keseharian, Teknik Blogging - Asep Haryono | Why People Love Facebook and Why You Should Be Cautious Too - Powered by Blogger

Why People Love Facebook and Why You Should Be Cautious Too Facebook has become more than just a social network it’s practically a part of our daily lives. Whether you're scrolling for memes, sharing family photos, or promoting your latest blog post (like me!), Facebook connects billions of people around the globe. But why is it still so loved after all these years?

First of all, it’s got massive global reach. No matter where you are Singapore, Indonesia, the USFacebook is probably the easiest way to stay in touch with family, friends, and even your old classmates. It’s like a digital reunion waiting to happen.

And let’s not forget how easy it is to use. Even your grandma can sign up, post selfies, and like your status. It’s free, simple, and very familiar. On top of that, it’s become an information hub some people don’t even read the news anymore; they just rely on their Facebook feed!

But Facebook isn’t just for socializing. It’s a business powerhouse. Entrepreneurs, bloggers, freelancers you name it use Facebook to reach audiences, grow their brand, and sell their stuff. Groups and Pages are especially useful for connecting with like-minded people or building niche communities.

Of course, it’s also a source of entertainment. From funny reels to silly challenges, there’s always something to watch, read, or laugh at

Facebook is fun until your account gets hacked or someone uses your profile to send spam to your friends. Don’t worry though! Here are 10 easy and effective tips to keep your Facebook account safe and sound:

Use a Strong and Unique Password,Turn On Two-Factor Authentication (2FA), Be Smart About Clicking Links, Only Accept Real Friends, Check Your Active Sessions, Adjust Privacy Settings, Log Out from Shared Devices, Keep Your Email and Phone Number Updated, Avoid Using Facebook\ Login Everywhere,





Don’t Fall for Giveaways and Prizes. Your Facebook is your digital identity. A little caution can save you a lot of trouble. Follow these steps, and you’ll be ahead of most users when it comes to safety.

That said, Facebook isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. Some users have learned the hard way that the platform can also be risky. There are countless stories of people who’ve had their accounts hacked without even knowing it. That’s why it’s more important than ever to be cautious.

Hackers are getting smarter, and phishing scams are everywhere. You click on one wrong link, and boom your account is gone or sending weird messages to all your contacts. Not fun.

So, while Facebook is a fantastic tool for connection and community, it’s also a place where you need to be smart and safe.Want to protect yourself? Read the next article for 10 simple tips to keep your Facebook account safe from hackers and troublemaker

Personal Experiences :
I Met Randi Zuckerberg (Marketing Director FacebOOk) in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 2009

500 young men and women from Southeast Asia gathered at the Putrajaya International Convention Center (PICC) in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, from November 15–17, 2009, to discuss and voice global changes for a better world

Randi Zuckerberg is an American businesswoman, author, entrepreneur, and tech personality. She is best known as the former Director of Market Development at Facebook and the sister of Mark Zuckerberg, the CEO and founder of Facebookkk

FYI, Randi Zuckerberg and Mark Zuckerberg are siblings. Randi Zuckerberg is the older sister of Mark Zuckerberg, the founder and CEO of Facebook (now Meta). They both grew up in Dobbs Ferry, New York, in a family that valued education, technology, and creativity.k.

I attended this event along with about 75 youth representatives from Indonesia. Among the notable attendees were Bob Geldof, Randi Zuckerberg (Marketing Director of Facebook), Biz Stone (Co-founder of Twitter), Amitabh Bachchan, and Garry Kasparov. All of these activities were fully funded by Malaysian millionaire Dato' Seri Tony Fernandes.”

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For those of you who already have a Facebook account, you might recognize Randi Zuckerberg, who was the Marketing Director of Facebook at the time. I was fortunate to witness her insightful presentation about Facebook in person. It was displayed on a giant screen for everyone to see.

Many people say that without photographic evidence, your story might just be seen as a fantasy, a lie, or even a hoax. Well, here’s the proof that I was truly present at the YES 2009 Youth Engagement Summit in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. I had the amazing opportunity to attend a discussion session with Randi Zuckerberg, along with several other world-renowned figures.

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A Message From Asep Haryono

 

"Thank you so much for your time here. I really appreciate your precious moment here as well.  Please leave any comment down below.  Let me hear from you.  Greetings from Indonesia"