Humans are possibly the most sociable species on the world; unlike some of our monkey cousins, who live in relative solitude, we seek, cultivate, and prosper from close interactions from birth to death.
We have a desire to belong, according to social psychologists such as Roy Baumeister, previously of Florida State University, and many academics have claimed that our need for relationships is nearly as fundamental to our well-being as our need for food, water, and sleep
It is not enough to simply have relationships; in order to thrive, we require relationships that are characterized by affection and intimacy. To understand why, consider that humans are born into this world in a virtually helpless state, in contrast to many other animals, which can move around within minutes of birth and forage for their own food within days or weeks. .
We have a desire to belong, according to social psychologists such as Roy Baumeister, previously of Florida State University, and many academics have claimed that our need for relationships is nearly as fundamental to our well-being as our need for food, water, and sleep
It is not enough to simply have relationships; in order to thrive, we require relationships that are characterized by affection and intimacy. To understand why, consider that humans are born into this world in a virtually helpless state, in contrast to many other animals, which can move around within minutes of birth and forage for their own food within days or weeks. .
We humans are completely incapable of meeting our own needs not for a matter of days or weeks or even months but for many years after our birth in the mean time our very survival depends on someone else's willingness to provide for us that's an enormous undertaking in terms of time energy money and lost opportunity so it naturally requires an enormous motivation to invest ourselves in someone else's survival.
Why do we willingly invest our resources in our children rather than keeping those resources for ourselves? Of course, we love our children, and love is a powerful motivator that leads us to sacrifice our own well-being so that our children can thrive. From the child's point of view, our love is required for the survival of a newborn.
When you think of it this way, our tendency to feel love and affection is practically a matter of life and death.
Once we leave childhood, our closest and most important relationships, such as marriages, close friendships, and family ties, are those that are characterized by affection and love; in fact, a lack of affection is one of the most frequently cited reasons why a close relationship ends.
We don't all require the same amount of affection, just as we don't all require the same amount of food or sleep, but we all require some in order to live a healthy and fulfilling life in our daily lives, so it's to our advantage to remind others how much they mean to us and why we care about them the way we do.
Why do we willingly invest our resources in our children rather than keeping those resources for ourselves? Of course, we love our children, and love is a powerful motivator that leads us to sacrifice our own well-being so that our children can thrive. From the child's point of view, our love is required for the survival of a newborn.
When you think of it this way, our tendency to feel love and affection is practically a matter of life and death.
Once we leave childhood, our closest and most important relationships, such as marriages, close friendships, and family ties, are those that are characterized by affection and love; in fact, a lack of affection is one of the most frequently cited reasons why a close relationship ends.
We don't all require the same amount of affection, just as we don't all require the same amount of food or sleep, but we all require some in order to live a healthy and fulfilling life in our daily lives, so it's to our advantage to remind others how much they mean to us and why we care about them the way we do.
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