TIPS : What to do when you come across a romance scammer

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Hello, everybody. What to do when. Now the idea is that if you're going to get caught up in a cyber security disaster, the time to have prepared for it is before rather than after. And actually, what we really hope is that by preparing in advance, it won't be what to do when. But what to do so that there isn't a when and today's topic Is what to do when you come across a romance scammer. So let's start what is a romance scam.

What Is A Romance Scam
So let's start what is a romance scam. Very simply put its, when you meet someone, for example on a dating site, you decide you're quite like them. They seem to fit in with your lifestyle. They've got some common interests with you. You go off the dating platform, you chat to them, as you would to build up any relationship. You decide you quite like them, but it's all a pack of lies and the crook is trying to draw you in.

They can get something out of you in the future. So how do these things typically play out? The idea is that the crook will look around on the dating site. Probably visit your Facebook profile. Look at what you're saying on Twitter, find out what your birthday photo showed that give them a good idea of what interests you they'll become the person that you want them to be and at some point in the future,

Mhen you want to meet up with the person for the first time because typically this will be a long distance relationship

instead of just like you would in real life agreeing to meet them at a neutral location, maybe have a date going Harvey's on it. What will happen is suddenly the other person wants to meet you but all the money needs to come from your side and they'll typically be a long and complicated story that will allow them to make money.

Not just the days or weeks. But sometimes, even four months or years. So, in terms of what do they want? Almost always what they're after is. Mummy and typically they'll start small and because they're in this for the long game, they will keep feeding you stories about why they need a little bit more for this and that and the other and they remember these guys are professionals, they work in teams.

So the guy you're chatting to that you fallen in love with, who needed eight hundred dollars for a Visa and then he needed another $125 because actually the attorney's fees to get them bees assaulted and then he needed money for the airline ticket. And then guess what? You get a phone call.

From a hospital, one of the other guys in the gang saying, oh, it's terrible news. We've we've had this trap admitted and he's in hospital, it doesn't have any money and suddenly you're on the hook for all of this stuff and all the time, the crook is continually continuing to play for, what you want him or her to be in a way that you think there's still a relationship going on here and you willing to put more money and more money and more money in.

And we've had cases with red of cases where people Haven't just been taken for thousands of dollars over weeks or even tens of thousands of dollars over months but hundreds of thousands of dollars or even more over many years. Because once you're sucked in,

it's kind of pretty difficult to give up on the dream because as soon as you admit that you've been fleeced, you have to face the fact that it's all over. So the best thing is to avoid getting sucked in in the first place, or if you do get sucked in to get out early,

So let's look at three simple tips that can help you do that. First of all, if you do go on dating sites and you do be meet people online, don't be amazed at if they suddenly seem to know an awful lot about you and they just see magically to have interest that mess mesh with yours. You've probably given away on your social media accounts on your Facebook pages, in Twitter all over the place enough for somebody to pretend to be the person. You want them to be.

It's okay to give all that stuff away on social media if that's what you want to do. Butdon't be surprised if other people find out what it is you put it there to be found so it's not some kind of emotional magic if somebody looks it up and then plays it back to you.

The second thing to bear in mind is if you are building a long-distance relationship with somebody online that can work out perfectly fine. If you're both real people and you're both actually interested in the relationship, but watch out. When money comes up for the first time, in other words, as we said earlier, what would typically happen when you meet someone in your own area and you're going on a date for the first time you typically meet up and you kind of expect that you each put in half of what it's going to cost.

So be very careful if suddenly the other person wants to meet you and they want to come to you and you have to provide all the money

I'm not saying that means it is a scam but it's probably a very very good warningsign. And the last tip is if you have got sucked into one of these if you have already given money away to Crooks. And then you realize wait a minute, this is all a pack of lies. Don't throw good money, after bad or bad money after good, I can never remember which way around. That goes. Don't be afraid to confront your demons, cut the relationship dead and get out before your scammed out of even more money.

Because remember, the only thing worse than being scammed for ten thousand dollars is being scammed for a hundred thousand dollars. And let me just finish by saying, if you do get sucked into one of these scams and it's not a sign that your unintelligent or thoughtless, or foolish or anything like that.

You're trying to use online dating in the way it was intended. And you've been deluded by someone you've never met. If somebody from your trusted circle of friends or family tries to advise you that this may not be what it seems, don't burn them, don't show them. Ugh, and maybe listen to what they've got to say. They could save you a lot more heartache in the future.  If you're getting into online dating don't get sucked into a scam
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